Dear PurseBop:
How do we deal with women who share the same SA as you, who keep asking you why you get offers they don’t? Or go directly to your SA and ask him/her why they don’t get items or offers as you?
Dear Individual Journey:
A good rule of thumb is never compare your journey with another person’s journey. Everyone has their own unique situation and their own unique relationship with their SA. No two experiences are ever the same. Unfortunately, we cannot control other people.
It is natural for people to have different reactions to luxury items, and jealousy can be one of them. If you find that others are jealous of the Hermès Birkins and Kellys you receive from the boutique, here are some suggestions on how to handle the situation:
- Be Humble and Grateful: Express gratitude for the gifts and purchases you’ve made, but do so in a humble and low-key manner. Avoid flaunting your possessions, as this can contribute to feelings of jealousy.
- Share the Story: If someone asks about your handbags, you can share the story of how you acquired them or why you appreciate the brand. This can help others understand your perspective and might dispel some jealousy.
- Downplay the Importance: Downplay the significance of material possessions in your life. Emphasize the importance of personal relationships, experiences, and personal growth over material items.
- Offer Compliments: Compliment others on their own accomplishments and possessions. Show genuine interest in their lives and achievements, and it may help to diffuse any envy.
- Be Mindful of Your Audience: Consider the context and the people you’re interacting with. In certain situations, it might be more appropriate to avoid discussions about luxury items altogether.
- Stay Modest on Social Media: If you share your possessions on social media, do so with humility and moderation. Avoid creating an image that could be perceived as overly boastful or showy.
- Engage in Acts of Kindness: Offset any negative perceptions by engaging in acts of kindness and generosity. Show that you value people and relationships more than material possessions.
- Educate about Quality and Craftsmanship: If appropriate, share information about the quality and craftsmanship of Hermès products rather than focusing solely on their price or exclusivity.
- Avoid Comparison: Everyone has different circumstances, and it’s not productive to compare yourself with others. Focus on your own journey and values.
- Seek Understanding: If someone is expressing jealousy, try to understand their perspective. Sometimes, open and honest communication can help dispel misunderstandings.
Overall, it is best to take the high road and do not respond to people who do not share in your joy. Life is too short to spend time with negative people who have jealousy in their heart. Spend time with the people who love you. There are a lot of those people.
Remember, people’s reactions are influenced by various factors, and jealousy is a complex emotion. By being mindful of your actions and demonstrating humility and empathy. You can help create a more positive environment by your actions.
Read:
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- Pursebop posted 2 years ago
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